Dating and so much more.......

With so many of our friends getting engaged and married it got me thinking about the whole dating /relationship idea, here is what I came up with....

"A New Relationship"

One of the best things about new relationships are the dates. The idea of going out with this guy or girl you are like "totally crushing on" is exciting. And as our relationships progress, so do our dates.We find out what the other person likes and we plan accordingly. We use dating to get to know these people, this guy or girl that we like. We even may start thinking that, "hey I can see myself spending the rest of my life with so and so." And if it doesn't work out you may still get a great friend out of the deal. I would say at the 3 month mark is when you realize if this relationship may be getting serious or just a friendly fling(and I don't mean that you have to be doing anything rated NC-17 or X, just out having a good time).

"Getting Serious"

As I said, for me it's the 3 month mark, by then you have been dating for 12 weeks. I would assume that you have had at least 12 + dates, so you should have a pretty good idea of what the person is like. Getting serious doesn't mean getting engaged or married so don't freak, but it does mean that you are willing to make more of a commitment to one another. This could mean that you start sharing more private details with each other, you open up more. It could also mean that one of two things 1) You two start splitting off from your friends and group dates and do things together, just the two of you or, 2) You start inviting your friends to hang out with you and your girl or guy. Which ever it is, you start letting them more into your world. You may even start bringing them over for family get togethers!

Now we have another anniversary coming, another benchmark...the SIX MONTH ANNIVERSARY!
Man time does fly when you are having fun. Most guys don't pay attention to these silly anniversaries, but I can promise the girls do. So you have made it 6 months, 24 weeks, or roughly 186 days. Congratulations, now what? You can tell by now if there is a connection a real spark between the two of you. It's not just some case of puppy love or a summer fling, it's something real. Sometimes, relationships don't make it past this point, and it can be really tough. As I have said you have started opening up to this person, and now it's over. Now we are headed full steam to the one year mark! To me these are the months that really define your relationship. You know how back in the beginning you thought for a moment that, "maybe I could be with this person forever", those thoughts start coming back and in full force. We start imagining what our life would be like with this person, where we would want to live, how many kids we would want, those kinds of things. Between six to twelve months we start wondering how do you pop the question, should we ask them to marry us, will they say yes, or will they say no. Do they feel the same way that I do? Listen, get over yourself! We have all been there or we will all be there. Stop stressing, if it's meant to be then it will be.


This is the end of part one... join in next time for part two...